We have all done it, thought about getting a new job. So exciting to think of a new opportunity and what the future could bring. So we visualize a new reality and in a perfect world it plays out just like in our head.
Step one: Revamp the resume and send it out to the world. Look for new and exciting opportunities. How fun this will be, meeting new people, sharing ideas, sounds good in theory.
Step two: We have a bite….. phone interview first of course just to make sure you don’t sound like Kermit the frog and to be sure you know what your talking about. Don’t forget to take into account that the interviewer already knows the questions and has probably already received tons of other answers from other applicants. So you talk and they get quiet, you get nervous and crap…. did I mess this up. Anxiety sets in, redirect, isn’t this fun.
Step three: We had a connection and now they want me to come in for an interview. I’m excited. Get out my best suit and here I go. Meet at their convenience which is usually during rush hour or the middle of the day….. but we are troopers and team players so we do it. Now let the selling of ourselves start. It’s lucky when you interview with a really nice person that is human and understands how difficult and nerve racking the process of interviewing can be. That’s if your lucky. It gets even better when you wait 30 or 40 minutes because they are running late. Of course you respond, oh I don’t mind… my time means nothing (in your head). You smile and talk and talk and talk.
Step four: Send out the thank you so much for interviewing me email and I hope you consider me a viable candidate as I would love to be considered for this incredible role and am extremely excited about this opportunity.
Step five: We would like you to come back in and meet with other people. Wow, so exciting at this stage. You feel closer than ever to your dream of a new and exciting opportunity. Wait, did she just say your resume was her favorite. Oh boy, could this get any better. At this stage, you are invested in the job. Even though you have only been on a few interviews, you have engaged in emails and a plentiful amount of research relating to this company and everyone that works for it. You start feeling better about the process and think that this could be it. The in person interviews go great. You send out more thank you’s and receive one in return with a request for references.
Step six: OMG, they want my references. You send out another email and here we go…. The company thanks you for sending the references and states, they will be in touch next week. Ah, it’s so close you can taste it. You wait and wait and wait…. the week passes and you’ve heard nothing. You call one of your references and they haven’t been contacted. Ut oh… somethings wrong. So we send a polite just wanted to follow up email and wait….
Step seven: OUCH… The next day a person you have never been in contact with from the company emails you to say…. so and so is out and wanted me to follow up… Here it comes….. We have decided to not move forward with your candidacy but thank you for your time.
Step eight: You cry… you have now invested your thoughts, time and heart in this job that you didn’t even get. The thoughts are racing through your head, your not good enough, you suck, someone was better, you screwed up. You replay everything in your head to think where you went wrong.
Step nine: You send an email to the person you connected with most during the process and you thank them for meeting with you and asking for feedback on your interview. Explaining that you felt so comfortable during the process and it really felt like a perfect fit that along with your disappointment you are hoping they can provide insight as to why you were not selected. Then you wait for a reply, one that may or may not ever come.
Step ten: You don’t give it. You are worth it… Some company is going to be very lucky to find you and then you say, your opportunity is coming one day… it’s just not here yet. So we try to find a lesson in this too.